• ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
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    70-80% of sex addiction is just people being shamed for their normal sexual needs that are more than jsut “wanting to have children”, mainly thanks to religious zealots secular washing their activism of forcing people to live according to their religious morals, but nowadays we also have the myth of semen retention.

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      That is true! Sex addiction is fascinating, just like porn addiction. Because it seems to be very much about shame and very little about actual addiction.

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      In my experience the people who describe themselves as “sex addicts” are people who were caught hurting their loved ones and trying to excuse their behavior, either socially (cheaters) or legally (rapists).

      Somewhat adjacent, I have heard of people claiming “sex addiction” to pressure their partners into more sex than they would otherwise want. Apparently there’s a whole section of feminists who believe that “blue balls” is completely made up by men, because it’s really common for men to claim blue balls is a more serious issue than it is. I’ve had to explain to multiple women in my life that it is both real and just a minor inconvenience.

      You’re not wrong about the religious zealots, I just wanted to bring up that there’s a TON of sex disinformation being spread by different people for different goals. And “sex addiction” is particularly ripe for such disinformation.

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        About blue balls, it’s not entirely made up. I’ve experienced it myself. Except:

        1. It’s discomfort, not terrible pain. It can last few minutes to a couple hours max
        2. It’s not guaranteed to happen
        3. If it’s use as an excuse to pressure your partner into having sex, then it’s abuse.
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      My religious zealot father took me to Sex Addicts Anonymous because I was jerking it to gay porn. So yes to what you said

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        I remember when I was first going through recovery, I went to a church that was recommended. The amount of teenage boys there for porn/sex addiction was crazy. Half of us were there for sticking needles in our arms. The other half liked to spank it, and as far as I’m concerned, perfectly, normal teenagers.

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      but nowadays we also have the myth of semen retention.

      What? Never heard that phrase. What’s it all about?