• slingstone@lemmy.world
    331·
    24 days ago

    Umm…I think my wife’s going to be upset when she learns I’m getting a girlfriend…

  • TommySoda@lemmy.world
    16·
    24 days ago

    Bro, I’m trying. I work all the time and online dating sucks butt. I think I’ve been on every dating app there is at least twice over the past 7 years with zero success. Like, I know I’m an introvert but it shouldn’t be that hard. Especially when everyone and their mom tells me how great of a dude I am.

    I think my problem is that I’m just not built for online dating. My last girlfriend and I met through fucking Reddit of all places… They should make a dating app for introverts where there are no pictures until you match with someone. Because I’m sure I’m not the only introvert that cannot for the life them take a good picture of themselves.

    • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
      10·
      24 days ago

      Introvert here. I met my now introvert wife at speed dating.

      If you haven’t done it before, you are in a room (usually a rented out restaurant so its just for this event) with lots of tables. At each table is a woman. As a man, you are directed to sit at a specific numbered table where there is a woman seated (all the other men do the same to the individual table they are directed to). A bell rings. You have 5 minutes to talk to each other and learn as much as you can about each other. After 5 minutes, the bell rings, and the woman stay seated, and the man moves to the next higher numbered table. You have a card with the woman’s name on it and you should REALLY make notes, because you won’t remember which things you thought with each person. The women do the same with their cards.

      In under 2 hours each person now talked to 14-18 potential mates. At the end of the night you go online and mark which of the women you’re interested in hearing more from. If any of the women you mark also mark you on their side, you’re given an in-app communications channel and you can choose to share personal contact information from there.

      When you’re sitting at the table talking with a woman sometimes it seems like that bell rings as soon as you sit down and you wish you had more time. Those are the ones you mark on your card to talk more with. Sometimes, you’re 1 minute in and you’re dreading waiting though the next 4 min. Those you do not mark.

      I’d recommend you give Speed Dating a try.

        • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
          4·
          24 days ago

          Did you just Google “Local Speed Dating” or something?

          Yep. There are usually companies that put these on, and as its their business, it will be the same companies doing many sessions throughout the year.

          I wasn’t sure if Speed Dating was still a thing (since I did it years ago), and I find it is still a thing!

          There’s one tonight in Los Angeles:

          But also midwest towns. Here’s one in Des Moines Iowa 2 days from now:

        • AA5B@lemmy.world
          3·
          24 days ago

          Well that was depressing. Google does indeed list regular speed dating events near me, by age range and preference.

          However I’m really not happy where my age lands. I can’t be that old. Just a few years ago I would be hanging out in the rec room playing video games on my Atari ….

      • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
        2·
        24 days ago

        Amazing I didn’t know it was a real thing I thought it was a joke

        Edit: cool beans found out one happened in 2019

        But nothing else

      • TommySoda@lemmy.world
        1·
        24 days ago

        How do you even find stuff like that? Because I’ve definitely thought of giving that a try ngl.

    • slumlordthanatos@lemmy.world
      5·
      24 days ago

      Like, I’m in that position too, except I have a touch of the 'tism to go along with it. Not so much that I can’t function, but enough to the point that socializing is exhausting. I get nothing but bots when I try online dating, and going out mostly just results in people asking me why I’m always just standing in a corner by myself.

      Really, I just need a wingman, but I don’t know anybody who would be willing or able to do it; my brother and both of my closest friends live an hour-and-a-half away and my BIL has very young kids.

      I’m at a point where I’m not sure if it’s ever gonna happen.

    • kn33@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      24 days ago

      I met my girlfriend at a meetup for the local area discord. You could look for a local reddit/discord that has meetups, or a local meetup.com group.

    • ikidd@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      24 days ago

      There was an episode of Ted Lasso that referred to a dating app with no pics. I thought it was a great idea.

  • Dorkyd68@lemmy.world
    7·
    23 days ago

    Oh daisy, yet another year has come and gone and yet another year you lie to me. Your words of encouragement are only gonna work like 3 to 4 more times max then I’m giving uo

  • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
    61·
    24 days ago

    I appreciate the confidence, but girlfriends require time. While it would be cool and could be helpful to have that extra support around, all I can do is provide money and dick.

  • 3ntranced@lemmy.world
    2·
    23 days ago

    To the other dudes still like me searching for a meaningful relationship, if you haven’t discovered yet there’s a huge part that makes it easier. Become friends first, then date. If you force right into intimacy there’s no relationship developed. It’s not like HighSchool anymore unfortunately, persistence is key but know when to move on.