• esc27@lemmy.world
    291·
    1 month ago

    Then they briefly acknowledge you before returning to whatever uninteresting topic they were already discussing and tighten the circle so that you could not join in even if you wanted to…

    You look around the room and everyone is in tight circles, making mostly small talk, with a few people in each circle dominating the conversations. At best, all you can do is stand outside a circle, essentially eavesdropping, but that’s creepy.

    So you just wander the room admiring the art and architecture, look out the windows, etc., before either finding a way to leave or finding a quiet corner and pulling out your phone.

    • Blue_Morpho@lemmy.world
      1210·
      1 month ago

      Then they briefly acknowledge you before returning to whatever uninteresting topic they were already discussing

      The fact that you call their topic uninteresting means you don’t care about others but expect them to care about you. That is you being self centered. You expect others to listen to your interests without first listening to theirs.

      That means taking a real interest in their topic even if it’s something stupid like sports. If you don’t know enough to contribute the conversation that means you are learning something new- which is a good thing.

      And just because you listened to them doesn’t mean they immediately owe you to listen to you.

          • glitchdx@lemmy.worldEnglish
            21·
            1 month ago

            I didn’t argue against what you said because technically you’re correct. Divorced of all context, I’d agree with you. However, in the context of the current conversation, I see why the majority of opinions are downvoting you (it’s actually closer now than it was when I previously commented, so let’s see where public opinion goes).

  • pH3ra@lemmy.ml
    20·
    1 month ago

    “Do you guys know about Free and Open Source operative systems?”

      • pH3ra@lemmy.ml
        10·
        1 month ago

        2 hours later “… Which brings me to the importance of self-hosting, and that is…” and you go on for hours totally oblivious, the friend that usually gives you social cues is crying in the corner…

  • Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works
    10·
    1 month ago

    I don’t do great with “normal” conversations. I actually love it when someone brings up some random ass special interest. This allows me to have a clear decision tree A. I know nothing about this, but it sounds interesting, here is an opportunity to learn. B. I know a little bit or maybe even more about this than this person, let’s nerd out a bit C. This doesn’t sound remotely interesting to me - I don’t like talking all that much anyway, but this seals the deal, I’m Noping the hell out of this conversation asap.

    So thank you to all you autistic conversationalists for smashing your cymbals!

  • Dr_Box@lemmy.world
    9·
    1 month ago

    Me wanting to know what my friends think about superdeterminism while we play monster hunter

        • tetris11@lemmy.ml
          3·
          1 month ago

          Oh wow that was a deep rabbit hole. So if I’ve understood correctly, by super determinism, the outcome of the big bang has more influence on the measurement of particles than particles have locally with one another.

          If two particles are entangled, “independent” measurements to verify this are contaminated by their causal connection to the big bang, which will still give readings that the particles are entangled.

          Or, if I have a bag with an orange and an apple, I throw one at random to Alice and one at random Bob, Alice catching an orange has nothing to do with Bob catching apple, but more to do with the which side of the bag the apple was leaning on in the bag initially?

          Is that right?

          • Dr_Box@lemmy.world
            2·
            1 month ago

            Thats correct. Superdeterminism suggests that the initial conditions of the universe, like the state of the big bang, could be responsible for everything that happens, including our measurements and decisions. In this view, all particles, including those measuring the experiment, are part of the same predetermined system. So, when we talk about entangled particles, their behavior is not just influenced by their local properties but also by the shared history of the universe.

            In your apple and orange analogy, it’s less about which side of the bag the apple leaned on and more about the fact that the bag, the apples, and even Alice and Bob’s actions were all predetermined by the conditions of the universe at the big bang. Alice catching the orange and Bob catching the apple wouldn’t be a truly independent or random event—it would be the result of an unbroken chain of causality going all the way back to the beginning of the universe.

            • tetris11@lemmy.ml
              1·
              1 month ago

              I think I understand it now, but damn that’s just… weak?

              It’d be like me smoothly sidling up to a pretty girl in a bar and saying “HEY GURL, YOU DON’T KNOW ME AND I DON’T KNOW YOU BUT YOU AND I SHARE THE SAME MOST RECENT COMMON ANCESTOR OVER 155,000 YEARS AGO AND CAN I BUY YOU A DRINK EVEN THOUGH THERE IS NO UNCERTAINTY IN YOUR DECISION AT A COSMIC LEVEL.”

              It just feels wrong to do that to women.

        • glitchdx@lemmy.worldEnglish
          2·
          1 month ago

          I don’t know if I didn’t understand that because I’m too drunk, or because I’m too stupid. It’s probably both but I really want to come back to this sober so I can try again.

    • tetris11@lemmy.ml
      8·
      1 month ago

      I used to do that too, but then I learned how to gently build enthusiasm and also when to know the signs of when they’re losing interest.

    • glitchdx@lemmy.worldEnglish
      21·
      1 month ago

      Fuckem.

      also, cool username.

      also also, I used to do that too. It would be rude to interrupt, and they’re probably not interested in what I have to say anyway, right? Fuckem. I’ve dealt with their bullshit for figuratively ever. Fuckem. They can deal with my bullshit for a change.

      I will to you the power to subject your bullshit onto those assholes.