• Fondots@lemmy.world
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    I’d like to skip Christmas, I get nothing out of it but headaches. I don’t enjoy the family get togethers (individually or in small groups my family is mostly fine, but all of them at once is too much) I don’t want anything that can reasonably be asked for or given as a present, and I don’t have any space for the useless junk I’ll inevitably receive.

    What I need/want is money. I’m not struggling, but I have projects and things I’m saving up for and whatever they’d spend on gifts if they feel like they need to give me something I’d much rather them just give me the cash or Venmo me. They’re not going to gift me a new heater, deck, washer/dryer, paint for my living room, etc. the best I can hope for is some gift cards to Lowes, home Depot, etc. and inevitably the cards will all be to different places so I can’t even use them all on what they’re intended to go towards, and there’s a good chance that once I’ve saved up enough I’ll get the best price at a store I don’t even have any gift cards for, so they’re going to sit around collecting dust because I’ll never remember to grab them when I need to go buy a box of screws or something.

    Just give me cash.

  • Like the wind...@sh.itjust.works
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    To win a housing lottery so I can move the fuck out like why the fuck do you need to be lUcKy to FUCKING LIVE IN THE CITY YOU WERE FUCKING BORN IN? Some apartments and condos had yearly incomes of 100k to 150k yearly. Bro. If you’re making One Hundred Thousand United States Dollars every year, you’re most likely making $1500 a week. You should be considered rich or well off. Why the absolute fuck are literal rich people unable to fucking just live on their own in their city without needing to be lucky? The US Government is a humongous failure. Any country with homeless and desperately poor people has a failed government. Then you have these exact poor people fighting each other for enough money to escape poverty on Mr Beast Games and everyone’s watching it without understanding how fucked that is. That poor people are given a carrot on a stick to chase for everyone’s entertainment.

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          It surely isn’t. True freedom is the ability to do whatever you want. You’re so worried about the supply side of that equation that you forget you can affect the demand side.

          To put an example to it: I already live in a world where I can rape and murder as much as I want. I don’t want to do those things, so I have the full freedom to meet my desires.

  • Valmond@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    I have all that I can reasonably want that I could reasonably be given, so I’m making a gift instead, I’m off donating blood in half an hour, hopefully someone will appreciate it 😋

    • thermal_shock@lemmy.world
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      man, similar boat. sometimes she can’t even stand straight without teetering, and I’m tired of fighting over it. if anything, this will be the cause to our end.

      I know how people here feel about reddit, but https://old.reddit.com/r/Alanon can help you get away or communicate better possibly.

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      Oooft hope my wife wouldn’t write something like this about me. No actual drama but my routine of being a middle-class wine drinker sinking glasses in front of the tv in the evening could be considered problematic.

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        as long as you handle all your responsibilities, it is what it is. when I can’t communicate with my partner or have to keep asking her to handle responsibilities or have the exact same conversation every day because she can’t remember? that’s a big problem. if I can’t trust my partner, then why are we together.

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          That does sound worse. Hope you guys manage to navigate this bumpy patch.

          Merry Christmas too!

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    Time. I just want time. And so far haven’t gotten any.

    Is it bad that I’m grateful to COViD? I invited my ex and her father for Christmas dinner so they could also spend time with our kids, but we never had compatible meal routines and they’re insisting on dinner at 3pm. However she came down with just enough COViD that they probably won’t come. I can have dinner at dinner time! I get time to sleep in, time to enjoy Christmas with my kids, and even time to put dinner together.

    If the rest of my week could go like that, I’d be so grateful

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      they’re insisting on dinner at 3pm

      I understand why some people do this (our extended family included), but I fucking HATE it.