Every group chat seems to die the moment I send 1-2 texts there. Every single one. Old, new, offline friends, online friends, everywhere. What’s going on? Are my jokes bad? Have you ever experienced this? If yes, what was the issue you found out?
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This would have been hilarious if nobody had replied…
It’s all in your head dude. Don’t worry about it.
I actually wanted make a joke on that in the post itself lol.
I was half expecting a ton of upvotes and no comments.
I’m going to be honest and try not to be rude. This is only my observation from my perspective and may be wildly wrong. I looked through your comment history. You seem to be polite and communicative. That’s not a bad thing. However, your comments don’t seem very funny or interesting to me. I communicate through humor. I understand that it is subjective, but I’m not often in chats or conversations that awkwardly die out.
Show some more of your personality in what you say. Compliment others. Leave them with questions. Do you think maybe the answer to your question isn’t what you are saying, it’s how you are saying it?
Tough but honest advice. I can relate to needing this advice but I’ve come to accept who I am. People just like sincerity, too. Organic, not shoehorned comments. No compliment fishing, etc… The group you’re chatting with also just may not be your kind of people; you just may not have realized it yet.
Alternatively chat groups do spontaneously die and you may only be consciously aware when it’s you who commented last; but you may not be so aware of the chat groups that died with someone else’s comments.
Maybe your interjecting into a convo and not saying something worth responding to? I would imagine that making a joke in text isn’t that funny because its not spoken its read.
I don’t do group chats anymore because whatever I say gets unanswered, or replied to and buried in the conversation.
With friends we do video chat. Also seems in large group chats, there are often like 10 different parallel conversations going on and it is hard to keep track of. No one waits or treats it like an actual group discussion.
They can smell it on you like a dog.
I used to have this problem and I’m not sure exactly how to fix it but I can say that it helps a lot if you consider what potential responses you might get before you speak. Don’t just say things because you want to say them, say things because they open up the conversation for interesting responses. This is not the same as “asking a lot of questions” because that’s exhausting, as anyone who’s dealt with a Sealion knows. Instead, try to say things that are open-ended. If your chat’s tone is comedic, try not fixing your typos so that someone else can chain a joke off of them. If the chat’s tone is serious, try making an analogy that connects the current topic to a previous one. If the chat’s tone is toxic, you can leave.
Gotta get there earlier … before all those other thoughts get a chance to drown out your perfectly sensible thoughts.
Everyone wants group chats to die
There is an enormous range of age and intelligence in a place like this. It only takes a couple of dumb kids to create negativity. The entire demographic at some point in time may not align with you.
Like I’m abstracted in functional thought. Many people cannot follow abstractions or contextualize them well. People that lack self awareness about the spectrum of human functional thought and assume they are some kind of universal standard and authority are the primary negative that causes you to question yourself in ways like this post. There is no standard. There are several types of functional thought, and of those, a few will struggle to effectively understand yours. That is okay. The world is not a binary. Right and wrong are idealized oversimplifications. There are exceptions to every rule. You likely encounter people that do not understand you as well as you would like, but that is going to happen with a group that contains a large spectrum of people.
Like some people care about personality. I care about curiosity, and want to engage with interesting stuff with depth on the edge of what I understand. I also want to question everything and look at subjects from different angles. Lots of people make stupid assumptions about unconventional angles of questioning a subject.
Why are you in so many group chats though? Just cliquish behaviors.
its you.
