• livjq@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    To all of the people saying this is sad, not all relationships have to last forever.

    It’s okay to get separated, even if you are married. It’s actually good to realize your differences, decide that you work better apart, and provide support to an ex-spouse emotionally while you move on with your life as well.

    • Zeritu@lemmy.world
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      6 months ago

      I’m not sure that I fully agree. I mean, to each their own etc., but what you’re describing seems to be more suited for relationships without marriage. The whole idea of being married is that your discuss this stuff before your wedding and then don’t just get separated because you “don’t feel it anymore”. The idea is that, if you feel like you drifted apart, that your work on that and don’t just get out of that relationship on a whim. That’s the promise you give. And even if you agree with your partner to just go separate ways (yeah yeah, consenting adults can do whatever the fuck they want, sure), a divorce has the significant chance to screw you financially for decades. I mean, I don’t know how it is in the US, but I’ve seen too many people who got their finances completely fucked by partners that they consentingly parted ways with, who they swore would treat them fairly. Too many houses repossessed, too many careers ruined.

      Is it okay to get separated? Sure. It’s obviously also okay to remain close and support each other, of course. But this comic promotes a lighthearted approach to something that deserves a much more careful and serious take that I don’t agree with. Those first few panels should have made them get counselling, not divorced.

  • Tattorack@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    Alright… So lesbian relationship. One of them decides they’re not a woman anymore. They both decide to devorce…

    Maybe I’m missing something, but is there supposed to be a joke somewhere in here?

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      6 months ago

      Their mutual regard for one another transcends what they want from the relationship, which contrasts humourously with hetero norms of trying to change one other to get what you want

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        6 months ago

        Ok, but… That’s not something that’s funny.

        It would work in a greater narrative, perhaps, where we as readers know the characters. Not this one off thing.

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        6 months ago

        Being selfish is hetero normative? I’m probably being defensive but this feels like a weird statement to make.

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              6 months ago

              If your jokes made around stereotypes in queer communities are offending people the jokes are probably just veiled insults. You can do things, you just need to be at least a little versed in the community and understand how to make respectful jokes instead of demeaning ones.

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          6 months ago

          It’s societally normative, as is heterosexuality. Correlative, not causative.

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      6 months ago

      The humor for me is that you kind of expect something like this to end in bitter tears and a sad goodbye, but they’re both actually totally fine with a divorce and even hype each other up for new relationships.

      A lot of trans discovery/coming out stories don’t end very happily, so it’s nice to see one that does.