Try speed reading. Like faster than is comfortable. I was the same way til I realized my casual reading pace is too slow to keep me interested. I still struggle to get interested but once I am, zooooom
Making assumptions about the way other people feel or think is unproductive and unnecessary. Maybe you want them to be mad, to fight back, but you’re just some words on a screen right now, so it only comes off as being an asshole.
Fuck off, you think you know me ?
You would have not made it having been through half of my life. I keep fighting in hopes that things get better and KNOW my shortcomings. If you think I haven’t tried reading books you are way off track. I have had a huge collection of books and LOVED reading but the fact is it takes me over a year to read a normal book as I fall asleep after two pages and have to reread every line multiple times and of course I don’t remember the line I just read but you think that everyone is the way you are and assume. I guess you think I’m a lazy fuck who never tries anything to get better do you ? Fuck off and goodbye!
You’re equating reading to writing, which are distinct enough skill sets that they deserve separate conversations. I think this is less a matter of willpower and more about actual capability.
The only possible reason you’d be this triggered by a stranger is that you see yourself in them and you don’t like what you see, so I recommend you start by taking your own advice.
If you live in the states, Libby is a lifesaver. It’s an online audiobook thing for libraries. You can use your library card to check out audiobooks through the app. And if you’re unable to use Libby for some reason, I’ve heard mobilism has a lot of audiobooks for free
Yes. I tell anyone I can at work about the public library and how you can use Libby or Hoopla to get free books. Some audio books for those not wanting to read. It is a great asset.
Whoops that’s just an interview with the author, though may be useful to some, I shall keep looking.
Audiobooks.com has a 30 day free trial, and this is one of the books they have, but still not good enough…
Bookey.com also has a free trial and this audiobook. I’m failing here as a pirate. Unfortunately, I haven’t pirated any audiobooks so I don’t know where to look
i take it you tried the archive? There’s usually a rouge upload on there somewhere, if not, some torrenting or filesharing service WILL have it, though it’s less accessible to the average person.
Will give a look tonight, my laptop died but I have a rpi4 running that might be enough to sail the high seas again for this old sailor. It’s been a looooong time since but I will find my path once again.
Is the book and its methods intended for neurodivergent people? If not, it is important to be aware that it may have limited use to people with ADHD as our dopamine signaling in the executive function parts of our prefrontal cortex is all kinds of fucked.
That said, I’m ecstatic to read that you found it helpful and really appreciate your correct characterization of one of the maladaptive coping mechanisms that we often try to use.
“Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything” by BJ Fogg explores how small behavioral changes can lead to significant transformations in one’s life. Fogg, a behavior scientist, introduces a method for creating lasting habits by making them tiny and easy to accomplish.
Key Points:
Behavior Model:
B = MAP: Behavior (B) happens when Motivation (M), Ability (A), and a Prompt (P) converge at the same moment. To change behavior, adjust these three elements.
Tiny Habit Recipe:
Identify a tiny behavior you want to incorporate into your routine.
Attach this new behavior to an existing routine (Anchor).
Celebrate immediately after doing the behavior to create positive reinforcement.
Focus on Small Changes:
Instead of making drastic changes, Fogg advocates for starting with tiny, manageable actions. Over time, these small actions accumulate and lead to significant changes.
Celebration:
A crucial part of the Tiny Habits method is celebrating your success, no matter how small. This positive reinforcement encourages repetition and helps solidify the new habit.
Ability and Simplicity:
Simplifying the desired behavior increases the likelihood of success. If something feels too difficult, break it down into even smaller steps.
Motivation:
While motivation can fluctuate, designing tiny habits that fit easily into your routine helps ensure consistency, regardless of your motivation levels.
Behavior Design:
Fogg provides a systematic approach to designing behaviors that stick, emphasizing experimentation and iteration to find what works best for the individual.
By focusing on tiny, achievable changes and celebrating small wins, Fogg’s method aims to make habit formation easier and more sustainable.
There is a book called “Tiny Habits” by BJ Fogg. He invented most of the techniques companies like Meta use to manipulate you and me.
In the book, he explains how to use the same techniques to control your own behavior.
I personally am in much better physical and mental state since I read it.
You cannot beat yourself up until you improve. It does not work. It is a myth.
I can’t focus enough to read a book and of I try hard enough I fall asleep after page two. Guess it’s not for me.
Try speed reading. Like faster than is comfortable. I was the same way til I realized my casual reading pace is too slow to keep me interested. I still struggle to get interested but once I am, zooooom
Cool, then I guess you’ll just do nothing until you die, and blame everybody but yourself.
You are capable of making stupid comments on lemmy. You are also capable of reading a book. Stop making excuses for yourself and be better.
But I’ve tried nothing and I’m all out of ideas!
You had the option to be constructive without being cruel or act like an ass, and you chose ass. Why?
Yes, I was cruel. No, I don’t think I was an ass. I think I was constructive. Why do you think differently?
I guess I asked wrong, let’s say that you were constructive. Why did you choose to be cruel?
Good question. I can’t answer that. I probably should’ve been nicer.
If you can’t build yourself up without tearing others down, you’re an ass.
Making assumptions about the way other people feel or think is unproductive and unnecessary. Maybe you want them to be mad, to fight back, but you’re just some words on a screen right now, so it only comes off as being an asshole.
Fuck off, you think you know me ? You would have not made it having been through half of my life. I keep fighting in hopes that things get better and KNOW my shortcomings. If you think I haven’t tried reading books you are way off track. I have had a huge collection of books and LOVED reading but the fact is it takes me over a year to read a normal book as I fall asleep after two pages and have to reread every line multiple times and of course I don’t remember the line I just read but you think that everyone is the way you are and assume. I guess you think I’m a lazy fuck who never tries anything to get better do you ? Fuck off and goodbye!
Let me dumb this down for you: You just wrote an entire short story about about how you cannot focus enough to read a story.
Do you understand now?
Everything about you screams main character syndrome.
Yeah, that’s fair. What did I say which was incorrect, though?
You’re equating reading to writing, which are distinct enough skill sets that they deserve separate conversations. I think this is less a matter of willpower and more about actual capability.
Yes, I do think you’re a lazy fuck. I think you do, too. Goodbye.
The only possible reason you’d be this triggered by a stranger is that you see yourself in them and you don’t like what you see, so I recommend you start by taking your own advice.
That’s very fair! And you aren’t entirely wrong. I’ll try to learn something from this, but I think the best way to learn is by challenging.
I did the Audible
Thanks I will try it when I can afford it. I just put it on my wishlist.
If you live in the states, Libby is a lifesaver. It’s an online audiobook thing for libraries. You can use your library card to check out audiobooks through the app. And if you’re unable to use Libby for some reason, I’ve heard mobilism has a lot of audiobooks for free
Yes. I tell anyone I can at work about the public library and how you can use Libby or Hoopla to get free books. Some audio books for those not wanting to read. It is a great asset.
Not in the States but thanks for sharing anyway, it may help others.
You are literally who internet piracy is for my friend
Go duplicate some digits
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uTawbZA7odY
Yarrr, I mean really not, but it’s freeWhoops that’s just an interview with the author, though may be useful to some, I shall keep looking.
Audiobooks.com has a 30 day free trial, and this is one of the books they have, but still not good enough…
Bookey.com also has a free trial and this audiobook. I’m failing here as a pirate. Unfortunately, I haven’t pirated any audiobooks so I don’t know where to look
i take it you tried the archive? There’s usually a rouge upload on there somewhere, if not, some torrenting or filesharing service WILL have it, though it’s less accessible to the average person.
Will give a look tonight, my laptop died but I have a rpi4 running that might be enough to sail the high seas again for this old sailor. It’s been a looooong time since but I will find my path once again.
Which archive? I haven’t really sailed the high seas the last decade. Most of the stuff I want is old games and I can find those easily
Is the book and its methods intended for neurodivergent people? If not, it is important to be aware that it may have limited use to people with ADHD as our dopamine signaling in the executive function parts of our prefrontal cortex is all kinds of fucked.
That said, I’m ecstatic to read that you found it helpful and really appreciate your correct characterization of one of the maladaptive coping mechanisms that we often try to use.
I think when it comes to exploitation by corporate interest, having ADHD makes you 10x more vulnerable.
Here is ChatGPTs summary:
“Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything” by BJ Fogg explores how small behavioral changes can lead to significant transformations in one’s life. Fogg, a behavior scientist, introduces a method for creating lasting habits by making them tiny and easy to accomplish.
Key Points:
Behavior Model:
Tiny Habit Recipe:
Focus on Small Changes:
Celebration:
Ability and Simplicity:
Motivation:
Behavior Design:
By focusing on tiny, achievable changes and celebrating small wins, Fogg’s method aims to make habit formation easier and more sustainable.
This is awesome, thank you so much!
Can you share the method you used (model/prompt)?
I’ve heard of atomic habits before. Is this different?
I hope so. I read atomic habits and it fed into my delusions of grandeur but nothing stuck. I don’t think it was written for us