Eh, I am an asshole.
Friends are hard to make. It’s even harder to find good friends. The key is to move through life open to the possibilities as they come.
Given enough time, and the willingness to be a friend, regardless of whether or not it works out at any given time, you’ll find people. Might take years, might get lucky at any time.
No bullshit, the real secret to having friends is being one. You’ll meet people at work, at stores, at events, wherever. If you comport yourself as the kind of person you would like to have as a friend, it is inevitable that you’ll meet someone that wants that kind of friend too. From there, you do your best, and let them do their best, and see where it goes.
It can be harder the more unusual you’re desired friend traits are. But that’s not the point.
It’s okay to “fake it til you make it”, btw. If you want a friend that’s compassionate, but you’re more of a stiff individual that isn’t moved by others, you might need to learn compassion by faking it. But as long as you’re acting with compassion, you’ll eventually either learn it for real, or become so good at mimicking compassion that it becomes the same thing. And that’s true for almost any trait. Hard to fake raw intelligence, or being tall, but stuff that’s behavioral? Absolutely possible to pick it up as you go along.
Be the kind of person you want in your life
You don’t sound like an asshole. You sound like a really well adjusted person.
I was mostly joking with my title. I don’t know if I’m an asshole. I do possess asshole like traits. I’m deeply against any type of conservatism. Interacting with people drains my energy so I can be glib after a while of hanging out. I’m probably just as sensitive as I am insensitive at times too so I spend a lot of time ruminating things that shouldn’t be taken as an offense.
I think in the long run it’s just difficult for me to establish a friend because I’m not sure what I want out of the relationship other than just having someone around to shoot the shit with. That means I need to have an interesting take on things but I’m not that interesting.
I think friendships are a give and take and I over give when it’s not necessary while also being absent when it’s most important. I also dont take ever. Thinking I must be self sufficient in all things.
I don’t know. I should probably do better.
Almost every asshole I’ve met thinks they’re aren’t an asshole. I don’t know who needs to hear this, but whoever they are will think it doesn’t apply to them. 🤣
If anybody’s in Oslo, this is an open invitation to hang out and maybe be friends.
Hej hej, jag ar en vast sverige nu!
Let me guess, that open invitation just suddenly got full, huh? :)
Seriously though, Oslo is the most amazing city, get off the train in centrallen and walked right into a bunch of wh40k games.
Ah, you found the warhammer clubspace! It’s like the biggest one worldwide, they tell me! Very cool place. And no, the open invitation is still open! I’m not naturalised enough to sneer at Swedes yet, however deserving they might be :P
Will DM you
Not a squarehead, American actually, but in the process of migrating like a european swallow.
I loved Oslo, but not sure I’ll be in soon, maybe closer to the winter, God what a beautiful city.
Thank you for the offer, will ping when I am here longer, currently commuting from California which is brutal.
Commuting from… California to Oslo? That’s only 14 hours. Wait till you get here and we make you walk everywhere.
I actually like that, the walking is fun, right now I’m in rural Sweden and I’m still driving everywhere.
Oslo is just such a fun city, can’t wait to see it again.
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I hate most people. I choose to have to no friends and to fuck no one, cuz I pretty much hate everyone. Some dudes are cool, but I’m not into penis. Everyone else pretty much is awful and I’m better off with just me, my 3 dogs, and all the time in the world. Life’s good so long as the assholes keep their asshole existence out of mine.
So that’s like voluntarily friendless?
I will say though. People aren’t there for you to fuck them. So who cares if they have a penis.
I mean, if you think of everyone as a means to an end (focusing on their gender / wanting someone to fuck instead of being a friend) then yeah, you won’t really find friends anywhere. And that’s not exactly surprising.
