Used to be wives were referred to as “Mrs. (Husband’s Name)”.
Though I’d think anyone calling my wife “Mrs. jordanlund” would be swiftly killed and nobody would find the body.
About a year after I got married, my buddy Spider was over for dinner.
We were in the kitchen doing prep as a group, because it’s fun. Spider, being a fuckwit, decides to start calling my wife Mrs Sasquatch (sasquatch being one of my nicknames).
She glared at him the first time and said “I have even less body hair than you, Mr I wish I was cool”
Which got plenty of laughter all around.
By the fifth or sixth time, Spider had run the joke into the ground as usual. He asks if Mrs Squatch could hand him the eggs. So she did. Right to the face.
Which got plenty of laughter all around tbh. Spider may be a twat, but he takes as well as he dishes out.
That’s still a thing although it’s a dated practice and I only ever see it in very specific formal situations (wedding invites, obituaries, etc.)
I call my wife Mrs Bizzle all the time, she hates it
Imagine you get divorced
“Oh hey Janet”
“It’s Robert now”
What if we did like Quebec instead and didn’t take anybody’s name… Remain your own person. Enough with this antiquated BS.
I think the reality is it should be up to the individuals to decide whatever the hell they want to do. It’s totally fine if a woman wants to take her husbands name. And equally fine for her not to. Vice versa as well, no reason the husband can’t make that decision.
The reality is that as long as it is an option you will be perpetuating this social construct that is heavily steeped in patriarchy.
So you should tell women what to do if YOU think it’s the right thing for them to do?
