i genuinely feel like my entire life and mindset have done a… at least a 90 by now, by somehow, somehow getting this hail mary pass off and setting this up. i can’t believe this is real life it’s very bizarre, i’m just shaking with anxiety and energy
i just feel like she’ll hate me upon first sight (this was thru an app) for some reason, she’ll sense the autism, she’ll know i’m off and the next hour will be awkward and she’ll politely say goodbye.
i mean, alternatively, it could go well, she could be cool. she seems cool which i suppose is why i did this. what is happening i cannot believe these are things that are going on in my life i feel like i was just in a major major hitting slump for 10 years, strikeout after strikeout
and then also what if she ghosts me or stands me up like in the films. what then? add it to the list of failures and try to rebuild my self image?
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You got this! And congrats! Just remember to relax! I bet you’ll have a great time, but if any of those negative things happen don’t worry about it! You’ve proven you can get dates so it won’t be your last chance anyway. And who knows, they might have asd as well!
What other good things have been goin on for ya?
This is a big deal, all i can say is, Good luck, and hope everything ends up well for both of you.
If she ghosts you or stands you up or there are other problems then just acknowledge it and move on. Sometimes people are compatible and it’s great, but other times people aren’t a good fit. If it turns out that she’s not into you or if she doesn’t treat you nicely then that doesn’t mean that you failed in making her like you. Your goal is to get to know her a little better right now, and to be yourself and to try to have a good time. That’s all
Confidence. Normal people are attracted to people that are just confident in being who they are. The rest doesn’t matter, and if it does, you dodged a bullet.
You’d not probably be able to avoid fixations and doubts like these, but there’s a sober reminder that many shy people can’t land a date like you did and this person is somehow interested in you, so there you have a higher ground. If you don’t feel like speaking, ask them, as people like talking about themselves, and listen, add supportive questions about the details for them to talk more. Don’t shoot them with ‘I am on the spectrum’ and let them see for themselves if they vibe with you.
My tipp: don’t try to analyze and think to much about yourself. It’s like thinking about the way you walk and suddenly walking feels strange and forced. You can’t change who you are, don’t even try it.
Instead try to focus on her, everyone loves a good, active listener. You are there to get to know her anyway, aren’t you?
One thing you should take to your heart. Finding a good match isn’t an easy task, don’t go on a date expecting her to be the one. Eventually you will get disappointed or rejected, that is totally normal and nothing to worry about. It just means you and her weren’t a good fit.
And don’t try to act in a way thats untypical for you just to impress her. You want her to get to know the real you, not the impression of someone you think she would like.
Think about it like a casual date without any expectations is the best you can do
It’s been two days, how did it go??
She stole his kidney.
