• TootSweet@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1084·
    1 year ago

    I wouldn’t want to stay married to anyone who would play these kinds of mind games.

    • thebestaquaman@lemmy.world
      825·
      1 year ago

      To be fair, it doesn’t have to be mind games, she could have been in a bad place and somehow figured out for herself that the best thing to do was to end the relationship, but realised that she was wrong. There are people who genuinely believe that they can make other peoples lives better by leaving them (a kind of “you would do better without me, I’m only pulling you down” mentality), that could do something like this not to manipulate the other person, but because they actually care about them, but are in a bad place themselves.

  • Classy@sh.itjust.works
    696·
    1 year ago

    What a sad situation. I know a lot of people here think this is abuse and I can see their perspective, but I see this more as a relationship lacking communication. The wife didn’t feel assured that her husband loved her anymore and the divorce papers were a last ditch effort to see if he still does. Sure, just talking openly would be better, but goddamn is it hard to find people who can do that.

    I think the fact that she broke down and tore up the papers immediately after is a sign that she really didn’t want to do it and was reacting to his genuine reply.

    I think OOP needs couple’s therapy.

    • ameancow@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      1 year ago

      Yeah this is a couple who haven’t really talked through their issues and may have some kind of executive dysfunction. A little time being very honest and crying through their own insecurities together would turn their lives around for the better. (executive dysfunction is a big word but common problem with anyone who has depression and/or anxiety. It just means you don’t have a solid distinction in your mind between what you want for yourself and your life, and how your feelings just run away with you and make small things huge obstacles.)

  • surph_ninja@lemmy.world
    40·
    1 year ago

    This is fiction.

    It takes a lot more than 3 days to finalize terms of the divorce. It usually takes longer than that just to get both of your lawyers to look over and approve it.

    Even if these two people are both lawyers, and decided to represent themselves, you’d need a notary present when you’re signing.

      • surph_ninja@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        Even if this guy was stupid enough not to run the agreement by his own lawyer, even if there’s no contested assets, etc, he still ain’t signing that thing without a notary.

    • Shard@lemmy.world
      2·
      1 year ago

      Its like part of the plot of EEAAO. Where the husband gives the wife divorce papers in an attempt to get their marriage back on track…

    • Dasus@lemmy.world
      2·
      1 year ago

      Here in Finland I believe there’s a mandatory 6-month separation period before you can divorce.

      But also I’ve had 8 beers a gross amount of rum and glög, an ambien or two and all the weed. So… I may not be giving correct info rn. I believed I am, but you shouldn’t trust me.

  • 2ugly2live@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    1 year ago

    Talking of course would have been better, but I have a sneaky suspicion that this was not the first time she brought it up. I think the first one, he didn’t “care,” and she thought making it seem more serious would prompt some action. I think she was hoping it would be a catalyst for talking/change and not just, “Well, it’s been swell.” Like, ma’am, he doesn’t care. You told this man you fell out of love with him and he didn’t seem to care. Then you present him with divorce papers and he signs them willingly, as well as saying that the bond is broken. You ran out crying because he’s said very clearly that he doesn’t care, doesn’t want to “fight” for you, and did not react at all from the first time you brought it up until you gave him the papers. No “Oh my god, are you serious?” or “Can we talk?,” hell, he didn’t even bring up his own grievances. So now you take a nap on the couch, debating on uprooting your life for someone who at least seems vaguely interested in you, or staying with someone who is seemingly indifferent to you and your grivenances as he’s like “lol, women are so weird” on the internet.

    Again, not saying her actions were the most rational, but humans aren’t always rational. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us and we just want to know that our presence matters, and that sometimes leads us to make mistakes. Sad for them both.