• rottingleaf@lemmy.world
    2·
    5 days ago

    Funny. I’ve always been proud of understanding things deeper than people around me (or trying).

    But at the same time those people around would treat as something miserable the fact that I don’t even try to remember dates, numbers, names, other specific facts not necessary for understanding the whole architecture. I’m fine with that context, but it’s obvious.

  • moonbunny@lemmy.world
    2·
    6 days ago

    I’ve grown up with people around me constantly telling and shaming me for doing things wrong or only wanting to half-ass it, even if I just wanted to try something new.

    It’s hard getting out of that mindset, especially since its now just me psyching myself out mentally, but it helped seeing this post

  • Szyler@lemmy.worldOP
    21·
    7 days ago

    Always being told you are wrong growing up puts pressure on masking to always try to be right and gives an all-or-nothing thinking.

    It is OK to not be perfect. It is something I have recently accepted about myself, and hope others can as well. 🩷

    • quinacridone@lemmy.ml
      5·
      7 days ago

      This is something I’ve discovered about myself lately and I’m now trying to tackle, and hopefully start to dismantle.

      I did a fuck up the other day and may have unintentionally offended someone (a combination of mental and sensory overload led to a louder than expected verbal outburst of frustration)

      I’ve put out an apology and have asked for an accommodation to help with the sensory aspect, but I’m still churning inside and over thinking because of my shitty social and communication ‘skills’

      Thanks for your comment, it sums things up ‘perfectly’ 🤣

  • N3Cr0@lemmy.world
    1·
    7 days ago

    I prefer doing it right on the first try before I forget how to fix my projects when they are falling apart.