• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Correct. I did:

    Some people’s relationships are literally built around arguments and competition and they last decades.

    Then you said in reply:

    If you have and this is still your answer, then whatever that’ll be your opinion and I’ll have mine. Some people smoke multiple packs a day and live to 80 but that doesn’t make smoking a healthy thing to do either.

    So no, you didn’t. You just suggested that what I said was equivalent to smoking multiple packs a day.

    • qarbone@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      Sorry, I didn’t sanitize my output, assuming this would forestalled by the redirect to my other comment explaining I see how I was applying my implicit biases and connotations to what “argument” means.

      I didn’t call out the addition of competitions then because I didn’t think this would sprawl as long as it did. I will do so now:

      I never said a word about competitions and that, in my mind, has no inherent bearing on the healthiness of a relationship as there can be different types of competition. So we can immediately excise that from further discussion.

      Addressing the sole part that is relevant now: I now agree arguments aren’t necessarily angry, by everyone’s definition. But that was the tone and definition with which I made the original comments up until that first reply to chicken.

      You can see that segment as a revision of my first reply to you. Have a good whatever.