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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • netvor@lemmy.worldtoFacepalm@lemmy.worldThe future is now
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    1 month ago

    NTA but I think it’s worth trying to steel-man (or steel-woman) her point.

    I can imagine that part of the motivation is to try and use ChatGPT to actually learn from the previous interaction. Let’s leave the LLM out of the equation for a moment: Imagine that after an argument, your partner would go and do lots of research, one or more of things like:

    • read several books focusing on social interactions (non-fiction or fiction or even other forms of art),
    • talk in-depth to several experienced therapist and/or psychology researchers and neuroscientists (with varying viewpoints),
    • perform several scientific studies on various details of interactions, including relevant physiological factors, Then after doing this ungodly amount of research, she would go back and present her findings back to you, in hopes that you will both learn from this.

    Obviously no one can actually do that, but some people might – for good reason of curiosity and self-improvement – feel motivated to do that. So one could think of the OP’s partner’s behavior like a replacement of that research.

    That said, even if LLM’s weren’t unreliable, hallucinating and poisoned with junk information, or even if she was magically able to do all that without LLM and with super-human level of scientific accuracy and bias protection, it would … still be a bad move. She would still be the asshole, because OP was not involved in all that research. OP had no say in the process of formulating the problem, let alone in the process of discovering the “answer”.

    Even from the most nerdy, “hyper-rational” standpoint: The research would be still an ivory tower research, and assuming that it is applicable in the real world like that is arrogant: it fails to admit the limitations of the researcher.




  • I don’t have experience with Twitter or Mastodon but it reminds me of time when I quit drinking.

    When I quit drinking and tried to stay around people I used to drink with, I realized really fast how pointless this “engagement” (really just two people speaking past each other, and feeling like they have deep conversation) is. It’s almost insulting what a waste of effort such an “engagement” can be.





  • Honestly I prefer saying “Good Day” in Czech as well (that’s the most abundant one used here).

    At some point I realized that the whole thing has silent “I wish you”, which also means that if I say “Dobrý den” (==“Good day”) I’m actually being more generous. So correcting me to “Dobrý večer” (== “Good evening”) because it’s 7 PM or whatever is actually not just petty but also kind of a dick move.

    (Edit: I also realize that my explanation is probably the pinnacle of pettiness, with just a little pinch of dickmoveines on top…)





  • You don’t know that houses can’t move. Absence of a proof does not imply impossibility.

    Sounds ridiculous (esp. for windows / houses) but I think it actually shows where Occam’s Razor comes to the rescue: When deciding what to believe, you should consider how many assumptions either model of the world would have to include in order to explain your observations.

    Turns you don’t need to look for indisputable mathematically rigorous proofs, you just need to find the best model.


  • OT, but as a non-native English speaker, what would you say in a greeting like that if it was, say, 1:00 AM?

    What would you say, “Good _____”?

    Doesn’t “Good night” come with a strong connotation of leaving and going to sleep? (Or expecting the other side to do so?)

    (I’m from Czech Republic and we just don’t have such term.)