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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • I was a pretty big fan of them when I was a teenager. Saw them live a couple of times. They were actually what prompted my eventual radicalization.

    One of them (not the rapist; ugh… what a huge fucking disappointment that was) lived just a few houses away from us for a few years. I never built up the courage to approach him, though.

    Edit: just read the article the other commenter posted. Didn’t realize the rest of the band was (probably) a problem too. It’s a bummer, but I can’t really say I’m surprised.


  • You’re overthinking it; those questions are totally irrelevant to the point. Though, to be fair, the question doesn’t exactly specify this at face value.

    It’s really just a thought experiment: would you rather take your chances, alone, with a random bear/man in the woods? You don’t get a weapon. You dont get to choose which man or which bear, or what they do. It’s a gamble.


  • It depends. If you eat frequently, regardless of how much you eat, you’re going to feel hungry relatively soon at any given point. So, eating at a deficit just amplifies that. It’s hard to ignore.

    However, I’m a big fan of fasting (though I haven’t been very consistent with it lately). Once my body eventually gets used to not eating multiple times per day and instead, say, eating one big meal once per day, I don’t feel hungry at all until dinner time.

    Even if you do eat at a reasonable deficit, and your daily meal is healthy/has enough fiber/protein, it’s way more likely to satiate you.

    Not really related to the post, but if I’m doing OMAD (one meal a day) consistently, fasting also makes me feel great. I get a noticeable increase in energy and mental clarity.






  • Trying to mentally/emotionally distance myself from my “customer service” job. Like, pretending I’m not a CSR, but that I’m playing the role of a CSR in a show, or something. After over 10 years working jobs like this, and for multiple reasons, the stress and asshole customers have been making me even even more miserable than necessary lately.

    At the very least, this is helping me stay cool-headed and friendly enough to piss off angriest/most condescending callers, which can be pretty cathartic sometimes. It’s not so effective when it’s overwhelmingly busy, though.

    Also, calling my lawyer, which was extremely stressful to me for literally no logical reason. Actually, I had a reason to look forward to it.



  • It’s really frustrating how little value so many adults assign to the thoughts and feelings of kids. I felt the effects of that a lot while growing up.

    Idk. If it were up to me, I think I’d make the voting age maybe 14 or 15. It’s not that an 8-year-old’s feelings don’t matter (to me, at least), but you need to allow them enough time and brain development to be able to start to learn about and understand these kinds of things.

    There should also be accompanying education surrounding different political ideologies, history, policies, propaganda tactics, ect., but I’m sure that’d be very unpopular with a lot of parents.





  • You have presented no evidence that they’re a bot. But whatever makes you feel better about it, I guess.

    It’s obviously understandable that you’d be frustrated by this boring dystopia. Many are. Fucking constantly. You are by no means special in that regard. The problem is that you have so little control of your emotions that you willingly take it out on an innocent person.

    No one is forcing you to behave that way; that is all on you. There is a way to express your concerns to a CSR while also being respectful and polite. That’s not exactly a hard ask, either.


  • Regardless of how shitty the company is, nothing give you the right to take out your frustration on a total stranger who has done nothing to you. Tbh, I find it very strange. The person in the chat is likely just trying to help you, and you’re making their job a lot harder.

    Customer service jobs fucking suck. A lot. They’re probably not even being paid enough for the basic job requirements, let alone getting interrogated/condescended to/yelled at, which they probably experience multiple times per day.

    You gain nothing from behaving that way, except to make yourself feel better at the expense of some poor person who’s trying to get by, just like everyone else. There are much better ways to take out your frustration.

    edit: a few words




  • it feels like colleagues talk bad about me.

    What makes you say that? It’s pretty likely that’s just your anxiety talking.

    I’m not exactly the most social—or even socially competent—person, but I know friends are important to have, especially if you don’t have family you can lean on. Friends can balance you out and provide alternate perspectives when you need them, and we all need them sometimes.

    Also, I’m pretty sure having (good) friends is beneficial for your mental health. Having no friends can be detrimental to it.

    Regardless of what you decide, I suggest putting yourself out there. Start slowly, and ask people about themselves. It can very difficult and stressful at first, but it does get easier over time.

    It might be a good idea to make a pros/cons list for staying/getting a job; I’m sure there are other important factors to consider aside from the social climate.