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Cake day: August 3rd, 2023

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  • I got spanked and even hit a time or two as a kid.

    I turned out okay considering. Had kids and thought a spanking or two wasn’t bad considering what i went though so that’s the stance i took. Thankfully we had ip cams instead of video baby monitors when they were babies. $90 vs $350 at the time so that’s what we did. I set them up with my Synology to record continuously.

    I watched a monster overreact to a common child reaction. [Not justifying just explaining (I was tired and thus had a short fuse as happens at times with young kids)] Thankfully two things had happened. (1) I had the IP camera recording everything that happened, (2) I wanted to see why my kid was acting up and make sure I was in the “right” to spank her. Spoiler, I was not. I saw an angry man react to a kid who didn’t want to do something.

    I cried, because I was my father when I was punished unjustly as a kid. (There were times I actually was a shit head and it was warranted, but i also remember plenty of times it was not) That morning with my 2 year old it was not. Because of that day I no longer fell into the Spanking is okay for me group.

    Don’t get me wrong I know there are times it can be helpful but I realized at that moment I was not a good judge of when those times were. This means I was no longer going to do it. That was me but I don’t judge other who only spank.




  • I am truly sorry if I added to your internal turmoil. That was the last thing I meant to do. We all have too much of that these days.

    I had been on my kids recently about the idea of you find something turn it in to lost and found. If it’s not yours then “it’s not yours”. I truly have nothing against the idea that it’s hanging over a public sidewalk and you grab one. I was just in the wrong mindset to understand that you’re not saying “go pick it clean!” This is a great example of how a quick reaction to something can be the wrong thing and cause more harm than good.

    I will keep this in mind when I comment on other posts in a community I am not subscribed to. I hope you have a great day and an awesome week!