If I’m giving off the wrong vibe, I’d like to know so I can correct it.
Even if you’re not ghosted, you’re very unlikely to get this information. Usually it’s just that they’re not interested and not the why behind it. And begging for the why is typically not productive. The only thing not ghosting gets you is knowing it’s a deliberate choice and not that they, like, broke their phone for weeks or fell into a coma or something else unlikely that prevented them talking to you.
If the point isn’t to misgender him, then call him first gentleman. First lady is misgendering him. It feels justified and extra effective because of his transphobia. But it isn’t about misogyny.