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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • Because bystanders were not deliberately targeted by the pager attack. They were collateral. If I launch 20 rockets at a military base and a couple of them go astray and several civilians are killed, that is not a terrorist attack, even if I was aware of the possibility of that happening. Should I have been more careful? Maybe, but that is a different discussion. If I launch those rockets at a marketplace with the intention of killing/terrorizing civilians, that would be a terrorist attack. And that is the difference between the pager attack and Oct 7: intent.









  • I dealt with this for a while, although I don’t think that it was depression related. I think it was more to with stress from work/ moving.

    Exercise is good, I think going to bed earlier is counterproductive. You may want to look at sleep restriction therapy- the idea is that you are trying to minimize the time you spend in bed while not asleep.

    What do you do when you wake up? Keep in mind that waking up in the middle of the night is completely normal- everyone does it, it’s just normally you fall right back asleep and don’t think about it. Are you scrolling on your phone, getting up or just laying there? Definitely don’t look at your phone at all, that’s probably the most important aspect of sleep hygiene.

    Ultimately I think for me what helped me get over this was just becoming “zen” about waking up early. When it first started happening to me I was thinking “ah shit not again! I need to relax right now to fall back to sleep! Oh no another 30 minutes have passed and I’m still awake!”. But over time I would just wake up early and be like “eh whatever, hopefully I can get back to sleep.” Being okay with not falling back asleep makes it easier to fall back to sleep, it’s kind of a catch-22.

    Other things that have helped:

    • I don’t like melatonin on a nightly basis. Honestly I don’t think taking ANYTHING on a nightly basis is a good idea. Your body will adjust and you will be back where you started. Melatonin worked for me for a week or two and then stopped. I still use it very rarely but only to reset my sleep schedule, like if I have to go to bed really early one night.

    -Going back to the being chill about waking up early, try taking magnesium glycinate. Again I wouldn’t treat this as a long term fix but it might help short term. It’s a mild sedative, I find it helps me sleep more deeply and relax.

    -Are you getting cold? I have a high metabolism and I get colder as the night goes on. Adding an extra blanket when you wake up might help you fall back to sleep by lowering your metabolism.

    -if you’re laying awake for more than an hour it’s time to get up. That goes back to the sleep hygiene thing as well. You want to make your bedroom a sleep sanctuary. During the day keep your time in the bedroom to a bare minimum and don’t go to bed until you feel properly tired.

    I hope it gets better for you m8. Improving sleep is tricky because it’s not something you can actively try at, at least not the same way you exercise or something. I should add that there are super-short-duration antidepressants that you can take to fall back to sleep. There mentioned to me by a doctor although I never took them so I don’t remember the name of the drug.



  • I watch a lot of high speed police chase videos, kind of a guilty pleasure of mine. It’s fascinating stuff. One thing I’ve noticed is that while the State Troopers seem to have a higher level of training, when approaching a vehicle local PD will often just run up on all sides with guns out. So, you hear a lot of “watch the crossfire!” from the troopers. On the side of the road bystanders are rarely a hazard, but the same lack of positioning would surely be a hazard to bystanders in different circumstances. So yes i definitely I agree that police officers need more situational awareness training before they can use lethal force- especially in somewhere as packed as a subway station.








  • -Very skilled songwriter. I don’t necessarily like all her stuff but I legitimately think she’s the best songwriter (meaning, composing music and writing lyrics) of her generation. Probably since Bruce Springsteen or Billy Joel.

    -Very attractive and a good performer

    -Well connected in the music industry let her get an early start/inside track

    -obsessed with being popular. I don’t mean that in a negative way, but her primary objective with her music is to please as many people as possible. I think the documentary “Miss Americana” on Netflix explains that very well-at one point she straight up says “I just want people to like me” or something like that. That means her music/career has always focused on mass appeal as opposed to making more… limited-appeal music like most artists do at some point in their career

    -she’s kept a remarkably clean image even through being famous for close to two decades. It’s very telling that the worst thing her haters can say about her is “but her plane uses a lot of carbon!” This means parents let kids listen to her, brands love her as a sponsor, nobody boycotts her, etc.

    -one last thing, I think people love her songs because they feel like they’re true. Her songs have a very intimate, almost confessional quality that a lot of artists strive for buy often comes off as fake.