We had to put down our beloved baby girl of 10 years this morning after abruptly finding out about an abdominal tumor that burst open and caused internal bleeding past the point of saving.
Could really use some advice on the grieving process, all I can do is stare at her stuff and feel nothing but despair.
My heart goes out to you.
I’ve had numerous pets and been a care taker for animals most of my life. I’ve lost many over the years. It takes a major toll on the mind and body every time.
This quote is the most true thing I know about grief. I think it’s from a tv show but I originally got it in a card from a relative when my dad died.
“Grief is like a suitcase sitting at the bottom of your bed. Every day, you must carry it with you, without fail. Some days, it feels like it’s filled with rocks. Some days, it feels like it’s light as a feather. That’s how you get through this: when there are more days of feathers than rocks.”
Grieving is not linear. I lost my cat in February to cancer. I saw a picture the other day that made me think of her and I had a cry.
Keep her stuff until you are ready to donate it so her things can live on in another happy doggo.
Try to take care of yourself. At least remember to drink water.
The advice that I live by is that we can only be so lucky as to outlive our pets. It’s part of the burden of pet ownership. Besides, if we pass before they do, who would take care of them as good as we had?!
The above is easier said than done I’m sure. I’m saying this as someone with 2 seniors dogs. One is scheduled for surgery next Tuesday to remove a mast cell tumor. Trying to reconcile in my head how hard it will be to lose him…
Sorry didn’t mean to bring up my own personal pet stuff here but this struck a nerve. I hope you can find peace with your loss friend.
