I don’t know if anyone else has this problem but I have a really pacific issue. In general just I suck at talking. I find it hard to put my thoughts to words, I never know what words to use and I never know what to say.
I talk like xQc irl and the act of using words to hard I’m always slurring them out even tho I try not to and I have a stutter and a slip so saying thing is very hard.
You can start by using chat gpt’s voice chat. it’s a small step, but it can help you practice carrying conversations. speaking in public is very different from talking alone, but this could give you some direction.
if your speech feels like xqc’s, one reason might be overthinking how others see your face or gestures. building self-confidence can help—working out, for example, can make you feel better about how you look, which often translates to confidence in speaking.
another issue could be speaking too fast. try slowing down. you might worry about awkward pauses, but people enjoy listening. if you speak with authority and maintain your pace, others will adjust and give you time to express yourself.
lastly, if eye contact makes you nervous, don’t overthink it. a quick glance now and then is fine. it keeps you calm and focused without overwhelming you. over time, this can make speaking much less stressful.
Like anything, it’s practising doing it. Incidentally, this is one place using a chat bot might help you. These things are pretty good at carrying a conversation, and if you’re not comfortable talking to a person, it could be a good way to practice.
As others have suggested, professional help would probably be the best way to go about it.
Otherwise, here are my suggestions as a non-professional:
- Record yourself and listen to yourself speak, maybe even naturally (maybe on the phone?). Listen for the mistakes you’re making so that you can focus on correcting them.
- Slow down between words and sentences.
- Plan out your sentences before you start them.
- Be okay with using filled pauses. You don’t need ums and uhs, but things like “Well…”. Even something like “Let me think about that for a moment” is okay in certain settings.
- Look up advice for professional speaking. Advice for live streamers can be great to apply to your situation.
You’re dealing with both impediments and social issues here. This would be difficult for anyone. I highly suggest professional help, but if it’s not available or you are unwilling, the next best thing would be to understand you’re going to need to fail a lot with intentions of getting better, and it may never happen. I’m rooting for you.
Edit: To clarify, speech therapy and general therapy are what you will benefit from.
I don’t know if anyone else has this problem but I have a really pacific issue.
The word you want here is “specific”. 👍
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Practice by reading out loud slowly and enunciating like you want a child to understand you. Do the same with others’ speeches, as they were written to be said out loud. If they are recorded in an accent that is in the neighborhood of your goal, even better - you can practice talking exactly like a recording.
Even though this isn’t off-the-cuff speaking, you will likely adopt verbal patterns that let your words flow more freely.
You can also join clubs that are dedicated to speaking to other people. If all else fails, something like toastmasters, though that’s specifically about public speaking.
If this doesn’t go well, that’s also okay. You might want to look into a speech therapist if practice doesn’t help.
I talk like xQc
Just looked up this guy and this seems obvious, Twitch.tv is the inverse of literacy and coherence. Stop fucking gaming and watching streams.
Never watch his stuff. He’s content is the most brain dead dribble you’ve ever seen. He’s like some the white version of jinx. When I say he does reaction content I mean that in the most literal sense. He literally sits there and watches things and adds absolutely nothing. If you watch xQc you may as well go to the local movie theatre and look at the guy next to you. It has the same entertainment value and at least then you get to socialise.
That’s a wonderful mental image I feel like I understand high ranking streamers without watching them now
Also I searched Ukraine out of curiosity and he actually reacted to an HBO doc made by a rapist and an obvious fed military journalist 👁️👄👁️
I don’t know what to do with this info. Probably fed to him to promote. Gaming streamers becoming political commentators to find a way out of esports is so fucking weird to me still.
I wouldn’t even compare him to political streamers at least with political streamers like Vaush, BadEmpanada and Hasan they add something to the experience. They don’t just watch random content on they find on YouTube. There’s a trend now of them watching Master Chef. That TV show from like 2004. Just regular network TV.
Also, did the guy who made that documentary really a R*pist? How do you know?
There was a whole shitstorm about it.
I didn’t hear about it. Who was the dictator? Was it Roman Polanski? Bryan Singer?
Andrew Callaghan, not Hanrahan is the guy who was being weird at afterparties. The main Channel 5 guy who says he has persistent hallucinogenic symptoms. His fans stood by him 🤕
I know about that guy. He’s a R*pist? Explains why is disappeared all the sudden
I as a teen worked in a retail computer store Having to constantly interact with people really give you a sense of being able to communicate better. That or any job where you have to teach someone something.
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Another response to danger is your body hitting the pause button altogether. The freeze response involves becoming immobilized or “freezing” in response to a threat. This can involve a state of paralysis or being unable to move. It’s thought that this response might have evolved as a way to avoid being noticed by a predator or to remain still in the hopes that the threat will pass by.
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-happens-to-your-body-during-the-fight-or-flight-response
I would suggest emailing improv groups around you to see if you could join a class that’s supportive. Make sure to ask the teacher ahead of time so you can get a feel for if they’d be good for you or not and if they’re willing to work with you. If you could take a friend that’s interested as well, that would help for you to work with someone you trust.
Given the context of your post, I would suggest starting with the basics. Taking the time to learn how to write properly may give you some ability to speak properly.
I have a really pacific issue
I don’t know if this is typo or if you think your issue is as big as the ocean.
Given the context of the post, that they’re asking for help, picking on this seems needless and unsympathetic. Given their own acknowledged problems with speech I don’t see why making a joke about their writing would seem helpful or appropriate.
