This is absolutely true and I’m always surprised there isn’t more acknowledgement in progressive women’s circles. Simple polling shows that roughly a third of women hold all men to these standards but there are significantly more who exclusively apply it to potential partners (speaking from a very US-centric perspective).

The honest solution is that women who think this way are simply not good partners, and should be avoided to whatever degree is possible.

Well it’s entirely dependent on their social circle, right? They’re the ones who would or would not enforce these norms.