If you provide a service, you should not be able to discriminate.

Or, on other words,

If your religion prevents you from doing your job, find a different job. If your religion prevents you from being a kind and decent person, find a different religion.

And I would extend that to being “a merciful and empathetic person”, as well.

I feel your explanation is equally as valid and likely (if not more so) as mine, you’re just seeing things from a different perspective.

isn’t even really about the subset of men in question. Its just about extracting stuff from the highest value targets.

Except the highest value targets tend to be the top-10% of men, which is why women tend to be deeply offended if anyone from the lower-90% actually makes an approach - dealing with that interruption is a massive waste of her time and efforts, which can be better spent targeting those high-value men and extracting value from them.

Hence that “don’t sexualize me” messaging - it’s meant to dissuade the low-value truly-nice guys (the non-sociopaths) who actually value and obey the wishes of women. It ensures that they self-select themselves out of contention for her attentions without her having to expend any energy on them, specifically.

The amount of “don’t sexualize me” women who then turn around and post explicit and obvious thirst traps is crazy.

The problem is that they’re talking to two completely different and separate groups of men: the bottom-90%, and the top-10%, respectively. They just don’t provide any such context, which turns this behaviour from mere hypocrisy into blatantly cruel hypocrisy.