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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • At some point I realized people often ask a question but don’t really care about you answering that specifically. “How are you” -> actually I can just tell a story about a hobby related problem I’m working on, and not try to represent my emotional state.

    I’m not sure if this is one of those cases, but I could see “what do you want for birthday dinner” as actually meaning “I want to do something nice for you” and if you’d rather pick the night’s board game it might satisfy the exchange and make everyone just as happy. Though some people might really want to express care via cooking / feel it’s important you engage on that topic.