My response is even harsher, I go with lead has a 60% chance of causing adhd and lead was banned from being put in cars at the gas station in 1996. Then watch as most people my age realize they may have been exposed. The rest of the 40% chance is autism and more severely cerebellar hypodysplasia.

Hey! I do that too! Instead of saying I have trouble committing names/dates/verbal info, I just tell folks I have a short term memory disorder. Which is true! I need to mess up someone’s name or an important piece of info like 5 times until I cement it in, with guilt and embarrassment.

“You’re just using it as an excuse” is now a red flag for me that I’m talking to a garbage person and saves a lot of emotional energy kicking them out of your life.