• RebekahWSD@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I refuse to do it because I’m a twin. We both agree that it’s shitty if one of us does it because then the other is forced into it basically, being identical.

    Also our dad was a piece of cheating shit so we don’t ever want to know about that possibility.

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      3 days ago

      I think of myself as someone who always wants to know, I want to know the truth, I don’t like not knowing things. Plus, it could help finding out about genetic conditions and things to be on the lookout for, which can definitely be valuable.

      I’d still never do one of these tests because of the privacy concerns and because I don’t trust companies with something like this, especially since I have seen so many times where companies have a lax attitude or lax policies or both about security.

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      3 days ago

      That would indicate your mom cheated as well? Not sure exactly what your dad cheating has to do with your DNA. Wouldn’t it be better to find out he wasn’t your dad if he was so shitty?

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        3 days ago

        We do not want to find my father’s illegitimate children. He was our father, as our mother never cheated.

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          20 hours ago

          I’m very sorry I didn’t think of this context. I wasn’t being daft intentionally, it just didn’t occur to me when I was trying to figure out the situation

          I can understand now. Thank you for sharing and gently explaining the situation

          (I’m also very, very sorry to have implied your mother had cheated in that scenario. I did not mean to cast shade on her character)

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            16 hours ago

            You are much more polite than the person who was much more condescending about my mother. It’s fine.

            I know for facts my mother never cheated. Mother is at an age I have increasing access to medical records of previous…attempts at children. Which lines up entirely with things my father talked about, and how delighted they were when we were born. Also, my father, for his faults, absolutely could spot another cheater at 50 paces and knew my mother did not.

            Also she was like. The only person at home, working in education with long hours and then taking care of us, so if she did cheat, like. Damn, she was really finding the time somehow taking care of terrible twins.