[Image description: image of text which reads “I like when men explain basic things to me because in my mind it’s not mansplaining, it’s more like when a toddler is really excited to tell you about dinosaurs and you’re like that’s right cutie! You’re so smart!! Only one of us is being condescending and it’s me”, to which Shawn replies “if you have to announce when you’re condescending, you’re doing it wrong.”
OP replies “that’s a great observation, Shawn! Great job!” with a heart emoji]
Honestly, I am often a passionate little toddler explaining stuff that amazed me when I learned it.
There was an issue around male behaviour at an inclusive boxing gym where I train, and I was suddenly super conscious about this and afraid I was part of the problem. But luckily I had some super nice conversations with some of the women training there that explained me that this was not an issue. Of course I am no saint and have also made mistakes, but being passionate about stuff is not the same as mansplaining, and luckily others are able to tell the difference.
Something I did learn from that situation, is how women / non-men are often given less space to speak, and as a man who also loves to speak, I’ve been more conscious in giving space to everyone. Which is in fact a nice experience, as you learn way more about others and the world when you’re not talking :). It’s a peaceful experience.
I’m much the same way, and constantly trying to consciously be more inclusive in conversations
that’s all we’re asking for. you figured it out.
