Mine is an odd one, she let the breakup be amicable. It’s never easy to breakup, but our relationship turned into a LDR with a 5 hour time difference. Long distance relationships are never easy but we were giving it an honest shot. Eventually we both knew it was time, but neither of us wanted it to end. When the idea was floated that this could be coming to an end she insisted that we don’t blame ourselves but rather the circumstances. Our last date was both of us updating each other’s dating profiles.

We’re still friends, we still talk, I was at her wedding a few years ago, and the man she’s with is an amazing man, I wish them the best. It was an issue of circumstance, not compatibility, and of all the relationships I’ve been in that is the only one that I do not blame either myself, or my partner for the breakup.

My SO and I have been together for around 15 years. We’ve had our ups and downs, like everyone else, but I think we’re in a really strong place for the last year or so. I’ve had to face up to my imperfections and work to change them. But some of our problems were caused by my now diagnosed ADHD. (Medium severity inattentive type)

And she just rolled with it, she has accommodated my newly discovered needs like it’s nothing. She is compassionate and understanding of my preference to write down timelines so I can see the whole picture. She is happy to take housework off my plate that I’m simply not built to do well.

Holy fuck I love this woman.

he looked past the asocial behavior caused by autism; the dirt poor immigrant background and sensibilities; and the entitled liberal world view to date and marry a fat, hairy, older, and poor man anyways and that was no small thing for a solidly middle class, cultured, and mainstreamly beautiful man to do in the gay world; he was a living, breathing unicorn.

if i had my choice he would still be here by my side; but he was deported since i couldn’t sponsor him for citizenship due to doma