• TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    “You look nice today” could be a compliment or harassment.

    The difference is how good looking the person making the comment is

    • ShaunaTheDead@fedia.io
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      5 months ago

      No, it’s about your relationship to that person. Are you on friendly terms? Are they comfortable around you? Do you have some kind of established rapport?

      Or are you a complete stranger making a weird comment about another strangers physical appearance out of nowhere?

      • KillingAndKindess@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        Exactly. The source and the setting make the difference, not the looks.

        Some big wig isn’t going to raise a hand in a board meeting and ask to go to the bathroom. Why not? Because they’re an executive and this isn’t a school room.

        I’ve not once ever heard or seen represented any person ask something like that… likely because its pretty easy to have the social skills to know better. So why are there so many loud men who want tk instead blame their looks when its just a refusal to abide by the same social skills?

      • groucho@lemmy.sdf.org
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        Yeah. Also, superficially good looking people can still be sketchy weirdos. Vibe, context, and prior relationship are much more important than looks. Of course, some people can’t get their head around this and start blaming literally anything else: their height, their bone structure, a worldwide conspiracy against them. It’s crazy.

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        5 months ago

        Do you believe that if we have 100 women and we put two random strangers, one looks ugly and one looks fit and beautiful, saying the exact same comment and then we ask then if it made them feel uncomfortable, do you really believe that the more ugly one will not have a higher percentage of “uncomfortableness”?

        I for one would love to see the results of that study.

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          I believe their reactions might be slightly different depending on the person, but if you simply asked them if it made the comment made them uncomfortable they’d say yes 100% of the time.

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      5 months ago

      Ah, excellent, thank you! I love it when shitheads make themselves obvious so I can block them. Toodles~