• Nachorella@lemmy.sdf.org
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    5 months ago

    I know so many people who adamantly stand by their use of it. I used to say it, too, but all it took was one person to point out to me that it was hurtful and I apologised and stopped no questions asked. I don’t get why it’s so hard to just have a little empathy.

    • Anvil Lavigne@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      5 months ago

      i used to think it was okay for me to say as i’m disabled. what i noticed, though, is that my doing so 1) communicated to my abled peers that it’s okay for them to say as well & 2) made me appear as a pick-me; i was perceived as “one of the good ones.”

      the r-slur has been causing a very visceral reaction in me for years & i will continue to report each & every instance of it.