• I'll be on ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com@sh.itjust.works
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    9 days ago

    Your brother is on a (specifically designed and heavily funded) pipeline to being a total piece of shit (not just with misogyny, but racism, and probably queerphobia and ableism too), do what you can to get him off it. A quick search brings up what looks to be some good info to start you off:

    Manosphere

    Misogynistic influencers are trending right now. Defusing their message is a complex task

    De-radicalising incels out of the ‘manosphere’ through Reddit

    Making a Radical Misogynist: How Online Social Engagement with the Manosphere Influences Traits of Radicalization

    Swallowing and spitting out the red pill: young men, vulnerability, and radicalization pathways in the manosphere

    Exiting the Manosphere

    There are also many youtube videos on the subject, though I haven’t watched any recently, so I won’t link, but look up something along the lines of “manosphere right wing pipeline” and you should see some results.

    • Chip_Rat@lemmy.world
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      8 days ago

      Skip a step and just buy him some furry romance novel like “alpha of my heart” or whatever (I will not be googling for options, no shame but I don’t need that in my history)

      Give it to him and tell him you support him and he’s really brave to be himself in front of you and others.

  • Ledivin@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    “Alpha male” basically translates to toxic masculinity, and “beta male” basically translates to anyone who respects other people in any way. It’s the callsign of pieces of shit like Andrew Tate, who is a human trafficker and serial sexual abuser currently in prison awaiting trial in… I think it was Croatia?

    He doesn’t know what it means to be cool, so he’s hoping that just declaring that he’s cool will be good enough to make him popular.

    The problem is that the kids who try this strategy almost universally cannot pick up on social cues, otherwise they would understand that it will always lead to the opposite result. People who seriously say out loud that they’re alpha males are pretty much exclusively losers or scumbags.

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    9 days ago

    Tell him calling himself an alpha is just what a beta would do. Real alphas don’t say shit about themselves, they have people who do that for them. Watch him implode.

  • DarkFuture@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    People are generally stupid, even more so when they’re young. Younger people are getting brainwashed by low-IQ online influencers into believing this Alpha/Beta shit.

    It’s that simple.

    If you want to help him, try to break his addiction to those influencers.

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      7 days ago

      Yeah that argument has never dissuaded a single chud from embracing in the “alpha” bullshit. They’re being fed this bs from manosphere manipulators like Andrew Tate or someone adjacent or from peers. Their goal is to become cool and intimidating, it’s not about the bad research that lifted up this bullshit myth so long ago.

  • TheBananaKing@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    Alpha quality, like software. Buggy as hell and should not be released. :D

    srsly though it’s the clusterfuckchild of social darwinism, grindset mentality and randroid zoology, plus a bit of wannabe-dom.

    There was this old, debunked concept of the ‘alpha wolf’ as pack leader - all dominance displays, all the time, stronger and wiser and better than the rest, a sort of rightful-king that owes nothing to anyone, and that all lesser wolves obey and look up to.

    Some absolute chuds picked up on the concept and decided that it applied to people, that it was a quality people could and should naturally embrace, unless they were just inherently inferior.

    And of course they tied that all up with being male, because apparently men are just ‘naturally dominant’, unless again, they’re broken and inferior ones - so if you are male, it’s vital to prove that you’re a properly functioning one by being a domineering asshole who deserves to get away with it out of sheer chutzpah, or else you deserve nothing but contempt and getting trodden on.

    This ties in with conservative morality, which is entirely based around acknowledging and reinforcing social hierarchy. Right is when power is exerted downwards in the hierarchy, wrong is when power is asserted upwards.

    So in this world, ‘alphas’ are the master race, while ‘betas’ are submissive half-men who lack the strength (and thus the virtue) to display the proper ‘rugged independence’. They’re also obsessed with ‘cucks’, ie cuckolds, men who lack the necessary manliness to fight off ‘alphas’ who would disrespect and shame them by having sex with their woman.

    It’s all incredibly toxic, and you need to pick him up and shake the bullshit out of him.

    pic related

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    8 days ago

    Toxic people that would never have had a platform for their bullshit have suddenly gained that ability in just 20 years time because of the internet. People that would normally receive a lot of fists in their face, do not anymore. The digital world is such a new thing that it’s completely unnatural for us to live with and it affects our perspectives and social lives. It simply goes way too fast for evolution to catch up to.

    Without good care, it creates people that are completely delusional and deranged. Filter bubbles also add up to the problem. One that consumes content will be served more similar content, creating and feeding a very limited perspective. Because everything in the digital world is so new, there have been almost no studies in how it affects us and how it should be remedied.

  • Black History Month@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    All alpha maleism is categorically insecurity. For each of them it’s different. Figure out exactly what he’s trying to bury under all this tate shit and address it directly. It could be the onset of male loneliness, that shows up around the teenage years - lasts forever though if he’s aware he can make changes. It could be he’s insecure in his own sexuality - just get him to open up and take everything he said to the grave with you. There could be a person or activity the betas engage in that he can’t, or is afraid of being made fun if. Teach him how to stand up to that shit and grow through it.

    I’m not suggesting you punish your bro in a way that would enable this behavior further. It’s hard to be an alpha type when you’re showered in love and support- it just looks stupid. He’s probably going through some of the first real life shit, and handling it poorly. As his sister you’re kinda on the hook for helping him through this. If you do, you’d probably have a better brother and friend.