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minus-squareindomara@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up22·29 days agoLove is not a thing that happens to you, love is an action. Love is a conscious decision, made every day. Love is work. I once read some research done on marriages and love and what predictors there are for a marriage failing. https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/
minus-squareConstant Pain@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up2·28 days agoAnd it’s a two way street. Don’t put expectations on the other of what you don’t provide yourself. If the relationship is boring to you, act to make it less boring.
Love is not a thing that happens to you, love is an action. Love is a conscious decision, made every day. Love is work.
I once read some research done on marriages and love and what predictors there are for a marriage failing.
https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/
And it’s a two way street. Don’t put expectations on the other of what you don’t provide yourself. If the relationship is boring to you, act to make it less boring.