Having tried all three, its a stark difference in how much more social Lemmy is comparatively. Its not even close. Almost all posts I’ve encountered on lemmy have interaction; whereas, more often than not, posts on the other two platforms have no interaction. Wonder what the driving factor is behind this difference?

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    I left reddit for lemmy on the big migration but I though it wouldn’t last. Here I am years after. I enjoy lemmy a lot more than I ever did Reddit.

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    Lemmy is discussion focused, the bulk of content is the comments guided by posts. Mastadon/nostr are about microblogging, the posts are the focus of content, not the comments.

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      you are missing out. Which is much worse than just being wrong.

      The focus of mastodon is on the people, not the comments.

      Deeply care about the other person and then you’ll be interacting with someone you admire

      The comments are topics they find interesting and want to share.

      With coders, when they post something, is usually mostly signal.

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    I find microblogging format isn’t really great for having any sort of meaningful discussion. Mastodon is good for posting news or memes, but that’s about it. Lemmy format allows having an actual dialogue, and that makes it a lot more engaging.

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      Lemmy format allows having an actual dialogue

      It’s great for seeing existing dialogue, but I think it falls short for long term discussion between more than two people.

      On a non-threaded board (e.g. forums, github issues) you can watch a thread you’re interested in. On Lemmy/reddit you only get notifications for direct responses to your comments.

      I think some sort of option to watch/unwatch whole subtrees of comments would help a lot.

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        I haven’t thought of that, but that’s actually a neat idea. You’re right that Lemmy format works best for two people having a discussion, and it becomes messy to track larger conversations with more people. What often ends up happening is that the person who made the original top level comment ends up having many separate conversations with different people.

        I haven’t actually seen a good way to represent discussions between a group of people now that I think of it. Having watch functionality helps you know when replies show up, but it would be neat if different people replying could also be aware of what they’re all saying.

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      mastodon is awesome if you actually can bring yourself to want to interact with a real person.

      If you can’t get anything out of mastodon you cannot get anything out of interacting with another human being.

      Find someone to care about. Force yourself to care about them.

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      i care about other people, specifically coders. They are my rock stars. And that’s who i want to keep in touch with.

      On mastodon, if have something up your sleeve others want to have access to you. I get access to certified, cuz whats that, geniuses. They have the repos, source code, and unittests to prove it!

      On lemmy, not so much.

      Or riddle me this, how to build relationships on lemmy?

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      Then to get something out the opportunities the universe is gifting you, all you have to do is turn on that empathy switch and adjust the level up to max.

      The issue is all in your head.

      You are surrounded by giants, but you don’t notice or care.

      Force yourself to care.

      Find someone tomorrow and magically decide they are now the most important person in your universe moving forward. And you want to keep in touch with them regularly. And you find what they are up to thrilling.

      Then type in this url

      github.com

      This will be enough to fill your entire lifetime and then some.

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    Hey, I don’t come into your house and insult you by calling you social media! /s

    I think, much like HN or early web forums, we’re below the population level where personal attacks get unmanageable. On Reddit voicing a dissenting opinion would always get you dog piled and that makes people defensive and boring as shit.

    People here are generally (some exceptions being pro life/choice which is a deeply toxic topic at this point and Gaza which has emotions extremely high) arguing in good faith and even if they’re rough initially a lot of times I’ve appreciated back and forth threads since, even if there’s still a disagreement, most people will genuinely work to remove stupid misunderstandings and try and understand who they’re talking to.

    Additionally, the mods on most communities are awesome and focus specifically on removing things like personal attacks without getting heavy handed in interventions.

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    mastodon is like an oasis in a sea of noise.

    Concentrate on the signal, not the noise.

    Build relationships with people you care about.

    The problem with mastodon might turn out to be having a heart lacking in empathy. Need to be able to care enough to want to be associated with someone you admire.

    We live amongst rock stars. How can anyone completely miss that?! The problem is neither the platform nor the rock stars.

    Don’t need a sea of people. Need 10 or 5 or 3. As long as they are rock stars. I count my blessings daily.

    It’s clearly how approach to using mastodon. Small tweak to your mindset and you can get alot out of the platform.

    Dial up a super hero and tell them they are awesome.

    Go to pypi

    Find packages you like and their maintainers.

    Hook up with them and tell them they are awesome, but found a few things that doesn’t make sense in the docs. Whatever the approach. You are in!

    Do it now.

    It’ll take all of 5 mins.

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    Hey, just to drive some more social interaction, what’s your favorite color? Mine’s a mix of aqua and turquoise.