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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • So here’s what you’re gonna do. You test. And you spread factual information. Oh and you protest. Good news is people won’t be frothing at the mouth celebrating your death, getting folks to not celebrate us dying was like half the battle.

    Oh and an old prostitute once told me that after enough of her friends died she just broke and walked to another city (like days of walking distance). It’s not a good plan A, but don’t throw the idea out prematurely








  • Exactly. I didn’t transition until it was a choice between transition and suicide and I regret holding myself to that bar. It used to be the advice back in the day and like it makes sense when step 1 is start lying to a psychologist because they’re rampantly misogynistic but only to trans women (and also hold trans men to unrealistic standards of manhood), and step 2 is decide if you think it’s worth ever seeing your family and friends again.








  • Yeah. I’m sure it’s awkward, but it’s also necessary. My mom was honest and open about such topics with me and it was really good for me. It meant that had an adult touched me inappropriately as a child I knew what to do and that I could trust my mom to keep me safe and it meant that as I grew older and began experimenting I wasn’t taking undue risks because I knew enough to make reasonably informed decisions.

    Teenagers are going to engage in sexual exploration. Some won’t, sure, but most of them are pretty hardwired to want to try and to be willing to break rules to do it. And, given that they’re inexperienced and dealing with a hormonal hurricane some of them will make choices they regret. We can bury our heads in the sand and swear up and down that our kids know better because we told them not to do it, or we can grow the fuck up and accept that little kids need to know how to report a bad touch, elementary schoolers need to know what their body will do in a few years, and teenagers need to know enough to make informed choices when they inevitably experiment






  • What I hate most is that part of me understands. As a queer person, I’ve had people trying too hard to be cool and it’s awkward, and I’ve had bigots treat me like just anyone else to my face. If I was a fucking moron I might come to similar conclusions to the author. But the reality is that trying too hard is a statement of genuine care and acceptance, it’s an othering one, but one that says “you belong and I’ll put in effort in an attempt to show you that.”

    I don’t call Maga racist because it’s trendy, I call it racist because I’m white and I’ve heard what they tell white people. They have a contingent that see any brown people coming into this country as stealing jobs whether those jobs are doing difficult low paid labor like agricultural work, skilled hard labor like construction, or extremely skilled labor like surgery. They don’t care they’ll claim surgeons coming in are stealing jobs from hardworking Americans even if those jobs are desperately understaffed. And they’ll probably accuse the surgeons of being rapists and gang members or terrorists or communists.